269 | Family Challenges through the lens of ADHD with Kali Stanton

Kali’s father recently passed away: this podcast is dedicated in memory of her father. Kali Stanton joins me on this episode of the podcast.  She lives in Minnesota and is a teacher, wife and mom. Her most recent hobby she enjoys are piano lessons. I previously interviewed Kali  in Season 6. She has had many changes in her life since then, including moving to a new town and a new job. Kali was diagnosed in 2015 with ADHD and has now been told she now does not have ADHD. In the last three years, Kali has had many changes in her life, including having her ADHD “undiagnosed”. The new clinic which treated her sent her to a psychologist for a more accurate diagnosis of Kali’s situation. Kali wasn’t sure what to do, then decided that instead of focusing on a diagnosis, she would focus on how she felt and if the therapy and methods she was practicing were making her feel better or not. Kali has learned how having empathy for other family members and assisting them when they are diagnosed can help the entire family be better together. She also realizes there are times you need to take a break with another who you are in a relationship with to preserve the relationship for the future. Your Resources  | Lara Honos-Webb PhD   | Totally ADD  | Gary Keller You’ll Learn: [03:02] Kali talks about her diagnosis and her “undiagnoses”. [05:06] She was told her diagnosis of ADHD with the psychiatrist wasn’t valid. [09:02] More adults are misdiagnosed with ADHD than are children. [10:15] Using strategies and coaching group instead of looking for a diagnosis. [12:10] His current wife and others in his family who held him accountable for his actions. [13:07] DSM and the lack of validation for patients and getting help for ADHD. [15:00] Being on time is a hard challenge, especially with a partner. [23:35] Family history and how that plays into the diagnosis with ADHD. [26:27] Obsessive, compulsive checking your activities, if you did or didn’t do something. [31:44] Autism community, diagnosis and polarization and overlap with ADHD. [37:10] Seeing ADHD symptoms in family members and having empathy for them. [47:14] Kali’s mom diagnosis and why her diagnosis helped her to put things into perspective. [52:04] Putting on “the translator” when trying to decipher what a family member is talking about. [53:18] Having compassion and taking a break with others who you have a relationship with. [55:40] Resources which helped Kali learn about ADHD and how to deal with symptoms. Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group Early registration for ADHD reWired’s Spring season of our online, video-based coaching and accountability group has ended, and the groups are full. Our next registration signups begin May 10th.  To sign up on the email list, which allows you to register on May 7th, visit . ADHD Women’s Palooza Encore packages of this amazing conference are available for only $97!  That includes audio and video downloads, as well as abridged transcripts. Learn more at Support the podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me.  With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patreon-only Adult Study Hall. Learn more at ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to join the ADHD reWired secret Facebook group, go to and fill out an application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live!  These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 pm.  Go to . Want to be a guest? Hey, What about you?  Do you have a story? Are you a Coach?  Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call .