shame series part 7: unmet childhood needs, perfectionism, and public shaming

Discover the insidious nature of toxic shame and its potential role as the root cause behind our ongoing suffering and emotional turmoil. At the core of self-sabotage, toxic shame leaves us feeling empty, unfulfilled, and disconnected from others. Learn how internalized toxic shame manifests uniquely in individuals, evident through feelings of unworthiness, negative self-talk, perfectionism, fear of vulnerability, struggles with intimacy, boundary challenges, chronic self-consciousness, avoidant behaviors, negative body image, and emotional instability. This episode is the seventh installment of our multi-episode series, aiming to guide you in alchemizing and transmuting your toxic shame. TIME STAMPS: 00:00 – 13:48: The sound of toxic shame (listener voicemails)13:16 – 42:10: Understanding your core childhood dependency needs (how unmet needs in childhood affect us as adults)42:10 – 47:54: Abandonment through enmeshment in the overt and covert needs of a dysfunctional family system47:54 – 59:29: Understanding internalized toxic shame and shame spirals59:29 – 01:14:20: Toxic shame as forced perfectionism in public school systems01:14:20 – 01:20:51: How peer shaming in childhood leads to internalized toxic shame01:20:51 – 01:30:05: The devastating impact of digital public shaming and internet “cancel culture”[PREMIUM]01:30:05 – 01:36:51: Listener question from Matt (rushing the recovery process)01:36:51 – 01:51:42: Anonymous listener question (finding self-forgiveness after a shame-inducing mistake)01:50:47 – 02:02:34: Listener question from Caleb (how to sit with the deep pain of recovery and deal with creative blockages) Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.