E93: Ask Yourself, "What Do I Need?"

As leaders, there are certainly tough days when we don't feel our best. In this insightful discussion, learn about the importance of self-compassion in leadership and why asking yourself "What do I need?" on those difficult days can help you refocus on self-care. I’m also sharing the challenges and loneliness of leadership, and why going easy on yourself is very important in self-care.  Tune in for relatable advice on balancing empathy for others with empathy for yourself - even on your worst days. This is a must-listen for any leader looking to sustain well-being in high-pressure roles. Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: How to practice self-compassion as an empathetic leader on bad days The power of asking yourself “What do I need?” The loneliness of leadership and the importance of self-compassion Episode Highlights: [00:08] How to Practice Self-Compassion as an Empathetic Leader on Bad Days As an empathetic leader, it's natural to want to always show up as your best self. However, there will be days when you fall short and don't meet your own high expectations. It's important to practice self-compassion on these bad days. When you find yourself in this situation, try to acknowledge your feelings and the fact that you're not perfect. Ask yourself what you need in that moment to help you move forward. Maybe it's taking a break, talking to a friend or colleague, or simply practicing some deep breathing exercises. It's also important to let go of any negative self-talk or self-judgment. Remind yourself that it's okay to make mistakes and that you're still growing and learning as a leader. Instead of dwelling on your shortcomings, focus on the positive actions you can take to improve. [00:40] The Power of Asking Yourself "What Do I Need?" As human beings, we all have moments where we miss the mark and don't meet our own expectations. During these times, it's natural to feel frustrated or overwhelmed. However, instead of dwelling on what went wrong, it's important to ask yourself a simple yet powerful question: "What do I need?" By shifting your focus to your needs in the present moment, you can take steps to prioritize your well-being and improve your overall state of mind. It may be as simple as taking a break, practicing self-care, or reaching out to a supportive friend or colleague. [01:08] The Loneliness of Leadership and the Importance of Self-Compassion Being a leader can be an isolating experience that leaves you feeling confused and overwhelmed. It can feel like you're having conversations behind closed doors that are alarming and stressful. It's important to recognize that it's okay to struggle and that you need to go easy on yourself. Finding compassion for yourself can be difficult but it's crucial for your well-being. Making friends and building a peer group is essential for support. Remember, you need each other – the group of peers you surround yourself with and the ones you don't want are equally important in your growth as a leader. Take care of yourself and be kind to yourself, it's not always easy but it's worth it.