EP23: Carlos Marin Interviews Kimberly about Natural Birth, Gender Roles, and Explorat

EP: Magamama talks about natural birth, gender roles, and exploratory sex with Carlos Marin Jr. In this episode, I share: My birth story and soul calling to write The Fourth Trimester;  the realities of postpartum care today Information for men postpartum, role of the masculine in birth, and why we’re not optimizing our biology How to reframe sex postpartum; why childbirth is the one thing that makes us reconsider the way we’re doing sex Why birth is also a death and other thoughts on rites of passage Thoughts on losing control and increasing your capacity to hold charge   Natural birth vs. hospital birth and how to choose the right care providers Tid-bits on exploratory sex, the connection between birth and sex, and sexological bodywork   You will hear: Is my pelvis going to split in two? And more from my birth story (2:52) Is postpartum depression related to a lack of information? (5:24) What’s missing from the 6-week postpartum visit (6:29) Information for men postpartum (8:09) Reframing the conversation about sex (8:55) It’s okay to not want penetrative sex and other ways to connect (9:10) Childbirth is one thing that makes us consider the way we’re doing sex (9:27) What is a rite of passage? How does it differ in other cultures? (12:11) One of the hallmarks of a rite of passage is a death (13:39) A man’s role in birth is to protect the birth space (21:13) How do you approach prenatal education? (26:25) The two doctors in North County San Diego for natural birth (27:20) Realizing natural births are as safe as hospital births (28:13) How do you prepare someone to lose control? (30:12) Exploratory sex is awesome preparation for birth (31:12) Many women don’t get to lose control during a hospital birth (34:08) Go to the doulas and the midwives to find natural birth doctors (36:00) Find a care provider who believes in women and natural childbirth = activist (36:50) How Carlos dealt with seeing his wife in “pain” during childbirth (38:08) History of birth, witch trials; patriarchy (40:26) On hospitals and creating a birthing environment (45:13) What is a doula? (47:17) The Fourth Trimester (Dec. 26) and why people should read (51:30) My vision that all women can reclaim full sexual expression (59:40) What does postpartum mean to you? (1:00:21) How do birth and sex relate? (1:01:25) What do you do as a sexological bodyworker? (1:09:29) Two doctors in North County San Diego for natural birth: Dr. Capetanakis at Scripps Encinitas; Dr. Cobb at Pomerado