How To Be A Softer Feminine Woman

This week's episode is about being a softer feminine woman. Many of you know I was sexually abused as a child and in turn, I did not want to be soft, but very tough.  So, listen to this episode with open ears and an open heart. Then I want to see you tomorrow in Feminine Woman Workshop group where I’ll be LIVE to talk about this episode. You can join the group at no cost at https://femininewomanworkshop.com.1. Your Relationship with Christ is the Foundation {3:08}  Worship to God is amazing; there is nothing more beautiful than to layout in the presence of God. Worship is where we pour we our hearts out to God like water. God does not need a break from you.  You may have poured out your heart to others and they said it was too much or criticized you for it. It's not too much for God; He cares about every detail of your life.2. You Have to Heal {10:28} On the inside, I had a soft nature, but I didn’t want to show it. Even after I was saved, I had the residue of my past and had to do the work to return to God’s original design for me. I felt like I was sexually abused as a child by my youth pastor because I wasn’t tough enough. As a teenager, I decided to change my nature, so no one could take advantage of me. I became the attacker who fought people, cursed them out, and was very sarcastic. Sarcasm is a trauma response and means to tear, cut, and rip.  God did not intend for women to be harsh, rough, hard, or sarcastic. Whatever you don’t heal from, you will perpetuate yourself.3. Watch Your Tone {21:12} It’s not about what you say, but how you say it. From experience, when you've been through trauma and never let your guard down, you hurt people. Being tired or frustrated, is no excuse to have a harsh tone. In my life, when I am frustrated or overwhelmed, I am honest with my children. Sometimes I put on worship music and change the atmosphere. My kids need to see me face difficult times and overcome trials. This makes them resilient. Moms you don’t have to be perfect, let your children see you work through it in an age-appropriate way.4. Watch Your Posture {30:31} Posture and poise can affect your outfit and overall look. I haven’t always known how to walk in heels - I had to practice. With anything, if you want to improve on it, you must practice. I teach more on this in my Feminine Woman Academy.5. Pamper Yourself {34:26} We can get so busy that we don’t take our time. Before I was saved, I got up at the very last minute to get ready for work. It’s better to take your time getting ready by moisturizing your skin, brushing your hair, and doing your make-up to look your best. Listen, if you haven’t been taking your time getting ready every day, can we all commit together to looking our best?  There are so many resources available at no cost to help you along the way.  Let’s take enough time for ourselves, so we can feel what it’s like to be soft and pampered.6. Listen without Being Defensive {47:33} A part of being a softer feminine woman is being a good listener. I used to be very defensive. I would be quick to respond, ready to outtalk anyone, and ready for attack. I learned in my past friendships to listen even if I didn’t agree. However, I find with Christians, that if anyone disagrees with them, it’s warfare. Everyone that doesn’t agree with you is not trying to attack you.7. Change Environments {52:50} Sometimes you need to change environments. What I love about Feminine Woman Academy is that we have students from all over the world. You're the average of the five people you spend the most time with. FWA is full of students who want to  grow with other safe, like-minded women. Join the waitlist here.