Episode #46: Henrietta Nelson – Nobody Else Can Put a Feeling in You

Henrietta Nelson has always been interested in people’s minds. She describes how, during a decade spent working as a solicitor specialising in insurance litigation, she would study her colleagues’ faces, observing their drives and motivations. After a friend recommended a two-day course at The Coaching Academy, Henrietta felt the pieces begin to fall into place. Becoming a coach has given Henrietta fresh perspective. In this episode she talks about facing down feelings of impatience, and shaking off the sense that life is happening elsewhere. We discuss the beauty and the difficulty of becoming free to choose how we work as coaches. As a lawyer, nobody wanted Henrietta to indulge in experiments, but as a coach she works creative wonders with her clients.  If you’re dealing with self-doubt, caught up in comparisons, or in need of a reminder that the journey you’re on is valid, full of potential and uniquely yours, Henrietta’s reflections on her arrival at a place filled with meaning might be just what you need to hear.  In this episode, we talk about: The inside-out phenomenon, and how our thinking about the outside world impacts us Dealing with perceived rejection and early setbacks Letting go of getting everything right, and of linear trajectories Coping with anxiety in order to find inspiration The balancing act required when coaching part-time or navigating the demands of family life Henrietta also shares what she gleaned as a listener to this podcast, offering valuable reflections on particular episodes and insights that stood out for her. To learn more about me, visit https://www.robbieswale.com/, and to learn more about Henrietta, visit https://henriettanelsoncoaching.com/ For information about my wider work, my writing or to buy my books, visit www.robbieswale.com. Music by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQg To support the Coach's Journey, visit www.patreon.com/thecoachsjourney and to join the Coach's Journey Community visit www.thecoachsjourney.com/community. Things and people we mentioned (that you might be interested in): - Catriona Horey, who appears in episode #4 https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-4-catriona-horey-too-far-away-from-the-joy - Barry Ennis, who appears in episode #9 https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-9-barry-ennis-follow-the-fire - Lucy Ball, who appears in episode #40 https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-40-lucy-ball-how-to-be-what-you-teach - Robbie’s books https://www.robbieswale.com/the-12minute-books  - The Coaching Academy https://www.the-coaching-academy.com/ - Influence by Robert B. Cialdini https://medium.com/power-books/influence-the-psychology-of-persuasion-a-book-summary-7ae0ebf8950f - Jamie Smart, who appears in episode #16 https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-16-jamie-smart - Allegra Stein, who appears in episodes #22 and #43 https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-43-allegra-stein-when-is-it-time-to-quit-the-business-of-coaching - Jamie Smart’s Career Transition Blueprint https://www.jamiesmart.com/career/ - Three Principles coaching https://changeinaction.com/3-principles-based-coaching/ - Jamie Smart’s Clarity Certification Training https://www.jamiesmart.com/cct - Robbie’s testimonials https://www.robbieswale.com/work-with-me - Dr. Keith Blevens http://www.consciousleadershipschool.com/facultys/dr-keith-blevens-tst/ -The Inside Out Revolution by Michael Neil https://www.michaelneill.org/insideoutrevolution/ - Man’s Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/4069.Man_s_Search_for_Meaning - Terri Rubenstein at iheart https://iheartprinciples.com/author/terry-rubenstein/ - Jonathan Haidt on the Tim Ferriss show https://tim.blog/2022/12/21/jonathan-haidt/ - Phil Goddard, who appears in episode #30 https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-30-phil-goddard - Claire Pedrick, who appears in episode #44 https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-44-claire-pedrick-cutting-through-complexity-and-simplifying-coaching - Jennifer Garvey Berger, who appears in episode #42 https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-42-jennifer-garvey-berger-the-answer-to-either-or-is-both - Steve Chandler https://www.stevechandler.com/index.html - How to Get the Most Out of Coaching by Karen Davis and Alex Mill https://karendaviscoaching.com/book/