The Incredible Tale of One Mom’s Successful 10-Year Battle to Be Free of a Narcissist with Tina Swithin on Divorce & Beyond #257

This week, Tina Swithin, author of Divorcing a Narcissist: One Mom’s Battle, re-joins Susan Guthrie, Esq. on The Divorce & Beyond podcast.  Tina shares her 10-year journey to protect herself and her daughters from an abusive ex-husband and her mission to help other women do the same!  In this episode, Susan highlights the value of Tina’s books, work, and journey.  There are so many lessons to be learned from her ten-year battle in a high-conflict divorce.  One of the most enduring lessons was how hard it was to protect her children’s safety and best interests in the family court system. But with tenacity and creativity in bringing proof about her ex-husband to the court, she was able to finally end her court battle and have a positive outcome.  Tina Swithin is the author of Divorcing a Narcissist (series), founder of One Mom’s Battle, and the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program. Tina continues to champion children’s rights through her family court advocacy. Tina is working to raise awareness of the issues in the family court system and to educate the general public on post-separation abuse and narcissistic abuse. Tina is remarried and resides in San Luis Obispo, California with her husband and two daughters. Golden Nuggets and takeaways from this episode include: It only takes one person to create a high conflict case  Children are often the abuser’s pawns during a divorce Some of the most challenging times for Tina were when she had to learn the system, play nice while trying to maintain boundaries, and have her voice heard  In family court, it’s not what you say, but what you can prove. Tina shares how she was able to prove one of her ex’s lies while they were both under oath The paradigm of being the safe parent and handling the sometimes explosive feelings and emotions your children express in your presence The power is in understanding the narcissist’s patterns so that you can manage their behaviors Tune into this episode to hear Tina’s amazing journey and for examples of how you can promote child safety advocacy in custody decisions!  About this week's special guest: Tina Swithin Tina Swithin survived a “Category Five Divorce Hurricane” while acting as her own attorney in a high-conflict custody battle that turned her family’s life upside down for over a decade. While divorces are never easy, Tina quickly learned that divorcing a narcissist or other high-conflict individual escalates family law cases to levels that few can comprehend.   During her ten year journey through the family court system in pro per, Tina went through a two-day trial, over 40 court dates and two full child custody evaluations. During this time, minor’s counsel was appointed, over twelve police reports were generated and a total of three child welfare reports determined that her ex-husband was a “moderate risk” yet did nothing to protect her children.   In 2020, Tina Swithin founded, “Family Court Awareness Month.” Tina is the author of Divorcing a Narcissist (series) and founder of the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program. Tina Swithin has been awarded honors such as the “Top 20 Professionals Under 40” and the “Top 40 Professionals Under 40” in several regional California newspapers. Tina resides in San Luis Obispo, California with her husband and her two daughters.   Website: http://tinaswithin.com Books: https://www.onemomsbattle.com/tinas-books Instagram: http://instagram.com/onemomsbattle Twitter: http://twitter.com/onemomsbattle Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/onemomsbattle LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tinaswithin National Safe Parents Organization: https://www.nationalsafeparents.org/ Also mentioned in this episode:Rainbows For All ChildrenHow One Mom‘s Battle is Changing the Face of High Conflict Divorce with Tina Swithin If you want to see the video version of the podcast episodes they are available on The Divorce & Beyond YouTube Channel!  Make sure to LIKE and SUBSCRIBE so